How to Get Your Dream Body – Part 1

08.13.2020 | Forge Performance

If you’re like most people, you’ve taken a stab at this fitness thing before. Maybe you were successful at a different time in your life, but the “old way” of doing things isn’t delivering you the results it used to.

Maybe you’ve experienced temporary success with yo-yo dieting and exercise, but your body seems far more stubborn this time around.

Or maybe you’re rather new to this, and you had an epiphany that if you don’t start taking your health and fitness seriously now, you never will.

The good news is, regardless of which one of these positions you find yourself in, the path toward success is the same. There are some key steps that will lead you to your dream body and, unlike before, they’re the steps that will allow you to sustain that success no matter what life throws at you.

Before we break down exactly what those steps are, allow us to enlighten you of something you may not already know – there is nothing wrong with you. You’re just using a faulty approach.

You’re not broken. Your methods are broken.

And they’re mainly broken because they represent a strategy that worked for someone else. That someone else could be the former you – whoever you were at a particular time in your life – or it could be a strategy that worked for a family member, a friend, or a fitness guru who claimed to have all the answers.

We’ve got news for you…

You’re not that person. Not anymore or not ever.

This isn’t a bad thing, though. This is a good thing.

This means that there is a strategy that works best for you, and if you’re willing to pay attention, you’ll find out exactly what those strategies are.

So, let’s break down those steps. Shall we?

Make fitness your game

As we mentioned earlier, the problem isn’t you. The problem is your approach.

In order to achieve sustainable, life-changing results, you’ll need to make fitness your game.

The core concept that separates people who achieve sustainable results and those who either ride a roller coaster or never get on the ride is they understand where they’re starting from.

They know…

Who they want to be…

Why they want to be that…

Where they’re starting from now…

and What a realistic step forward looks like.

Who do you want to be?

Let’s start this game from the top – understanding exactly who you want to be will ensure you’re playing the right game to begin with. Again, if you play a game that someone else invented, or a game that was meant for someone else, you’re going to lose. This has to be a game for you and you alone.

When looking to achieve a health and fitness goal, we often get caught in the trap of what we want – weight loss, less belly fat, more energy, etc.

We’re not saying having these markers are bad. In fact, later on we’ll discuss why you need these markers as evidence that you’re moving in the right direction.

However, us humans are typically really bad at knowing exactly what it is that we really want. We might think we want something else, only to realize that thing wasn’t really as important as we thought – one of the major reasons why the yo-yoing takes place.

Therefore, it’s more empowering and encompassing to think about who we want to be at the end of this transformation.

Who do you want to be?

How do you want to feel?

What do you want to be able to do?

Again, we’re not always good at knowing what the answers to these questions are, so if you’re having trouble figuring it out, start with the opposite and flip the statement around.

Who are you tired of being? What would the opposite of that person look like?

How are you tired of feeling? What sensations and emotions would be counter to the ones you’re experiencing right now?

What can’t you do now, or what are you afraid you won’t be able to do in the future?

Don’t just think about it. Write this down!

Then, tell us why you want to be this person.

Why do you want what you want?

Ask an individual why they want what they want, and they either don’t know or the reason they give is more general than the actual answer.

Believe it or not, knowing why you want to accomplish something is more important that the accomplishment itself. If there’s not a deep, underlying motivation for what you want, chances are you’ll give up when the going gets tough or start sliding backwards when the motivation dies.

In order to solidify this goal and create a deep, underlying motivation that will power you through difficult times and life’s obstacles, tell us why you want what you want.

Not once. Not twice. But five times.

Why are you working on your health and fitness?

Why do you want to achieve X?

And why is X important?

And what difference will achieving X make in your life?

And why is that difference important?

It might sound repetitive, but this method actually unearths a lot of the deep, underlying motivations for why you’re doing what you’re doing.

For instance, your 5 Whys might look something like this…

Why are you working on your health and fitness?

So I can lose weight and get stronger.

Why do you want to lose weight and get stronger?

So I can be more fit and more capable to move around, and be more confident in my body.

And why is being more fit, capable, and confident important to you?

Because I’m a working parent, and I’m not excelling at life. Not with my spouse, not with my kids, and not even at work. I want to be a better spouse, parent, and want to excel at my job.

And what difference will that make in your life?

I’ll be happier, less stressed, and more in control of my life.

And why is that difference important?

I want to live a long, healthy, and fulfilling life. I want to be fit and capable to do activities with my spouse now and as we grow old together. I want to watch my kids grow up and be there for them when they need me, no matter what. And I want to feel like I’m contributing toward something and that I have purpose, both at home and at work.

WOW! You see, for this person, losing weight and getting stronger is just the tip of the iceberg. What it really comes down to is leading a more fulfilling life with her family and professional career.

This is the typical response we get from most of our clients, and it’s easy to see why (no pun intended).

Try this exercise out for yourself. Do your best not to copy the example above, just use it for guidance as you go. You might feel that this example outlines you perfectly, and we won’t be surprised if it does.

After all, if you’re reading this you’re probably like a lot of the people we work with. But try to come up with your own reasons, even if they differ in the smallest of ways.

Once you understand your why, you can bear almost any how.

Once you’ve completed the exercises above, head over the Part 2 of our article where we discuss the other two major pieces in this core concept, and how to start working toward that person.